Regrets - Why I don't have them
Accept everything about yourself – I mean everything, You are you and that is the beginning and the end – no apologies, no regrets.
Henry A. Kissinger
For my podcast I interview a lot of people. Asking them what kind of advice they would give their younger self. I think this is such a valuable piece of information, as what we needed when we were younger is often what other people need as well. Sometimes they don’t know, telling me they wouldn’t tell themselves anything as they do not have regrets. I love that answer.
First of all, let me say that I believe that here is quite a big difference between giving yourself some kind of advice to accelerate your learning, to give yourself a bit more clarity or to keep you on track, and having regrets. I don’t do regrets, I don’t believe in having them.
To me this all comes back to trust, trust in yourself, your intentions, your integrity and in life itself. If I trust myself enough to state that I’ll make the best decision in whatever situation I’m in, I’ll never have to regret a thing. Yes, there are obviously a lot of situations in which, looking back, I could have made a different or better choice, but that’s the thing about looking back, hindsight gives you 20/20 vision. Something we don’t often have at the time we make our decisions.
As a historian I’ve spent a lot of time studying the past. Researching the lives of people and the impact they’ve had on the world. If my degree has taught me anything it is how easy it is to look back on things and ‘being able to do it better’, to see what ‘should’ have been done. This is just not how life works.
So would I do things differently if I got a chance? In some cases, yeah probably. Do I regret any of the choices I’ve made in the past? NO.
Trust yourself to live life to the fullest, to take chances and create the moments you’ll look back to with a grin on your face when you’re lying on your deathbed. Don’t spend your life living in the past. I’ve studied the past extensively and trust me, it wasn’t all that great.